Sunday, April 12, 2009
What's the Big Deal About Marriage?
What's the big deal about Marriage? "Why can't two people who love each other just live together."
"Marriage is just a piece of paper anyhow." "Marriage is death to a relationship, once you get married it's down hill from there!" "Marriage is old fashioned."
Have you heard people say these things? I'm sure you have. You might of even said them yourself at one time..
So what is the big deal about marriage? Is getting married just a legal document so one can qualify for benefits, and what about same sex marriage, if two people love one another shouldn't they be allowed to get married?
Since I write about Wealth and Riches here which involve the subject of relationships, I want to address this extremely important topic of marriage.
Marriage the way it was designed to be, is between a man and a woman in holy matrimony.
It is a commitment made with both the mind and the heart towards the person you have said you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is much more than a legal paper or a contract.
When a person is married their relationship is "holy". Holy meaning set apart, made special where you are only for that person, and that person only for you. You are reserved for each other, and no one else is suppose to be that close with you except your spouse.
First of all, woman was made for man as a helpmate. A partner. (See Genesis when God made Eve). Not man for man, nor woman for woman, but woman for man. You might be thinking from that statement that I hate gays and I'm a gay basher. I don't hate gays, but I do disagree with their lifestyle. I do not accept it as normal in any fashion. It is quite clear from how we are made physically that a man and a woman are to be together sexually and no other way. I do not believe that any State or Country should make gay marriage legal. And the States in the USA that have already made it legal, need to repent and define that marriage is to be between a man and a woman only.
With that basic information out of the way, let's talk more about what marriage can be:
Marriage was meant to be until "death do you part". I know there are exceptions, but I want to focus on the way it's meant to be. Ecclesiastes 9:9 HCSB "Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life."
Marriage is meant to be romantic. Yeah, even after you're married 20 plus years.
Sure there will be days where you don't "feel romantic" but over all if you are intentional you will have a romantic marriage. Song of Solomon is a great example of the desire a married couple can have towards each other.
Marriage is meant to be for you and your spouse only. This idea of swapping partners of commiting adultery will only bring hurt and pain into a marriage. Oh at first it will be extremely exciting, heart pumping thrilling even. But wait for the season to pass and you'll soon start reaping the consequences of swapping partners. It will bring misery upon you and your spouse. It can cause divorce in the long run and you'll wish you never had done it.
When you love your husband/wife with all your heart, you'll never want to be with anyone else.
You'll count them as special in your heart. You'll guard your heart and only let them in that special area where no else will have access. Only your mate will. You'll be able to open your heart wide open to this person with no fear of rejection, no fear of ridicule, only openness heart to heart baring all things to each other even when you are hurt by one another. When this is done, there is true in depth healing and a dare I say spiritual bonding that takes place between you two. It is beautiful beyond description. Accepting one another faults and all. It's the best relationship as close to heaven as you'll get not counting a relationship with God Himself. Your body is no longer your own, but it is your spouse's body now and their body is yours. Reserved only for one another. When a husband and wife submit to one another remembering that their body is not their own, then there is no rejection; only enjoyment of one another.
Marriage is more than a physical thing, it is spiritual also. (The two flesh shall be one) is more then just sex. More then a man going into a woman. You become one with each other when you are married. Harmony exists when the two are one. Sure there will be times of disagreement. That's only human. Yet deep down you know your marriage is suppose to have harmony. If it wasn't meant that a way, then you wouldn't get so upset when there isn't harmony. You would take it as normal. Which brings me to my next point.
Respect. Respect one another. Be tender towards each other. Never insulting one another with words and never causing physical harm even when your mind screams out "JUSTICE!"
Respect one another as if you were living with a King or a Queen.
Serve one another as if you were serving a King or Queen. How wonderful your marriage will be when you serve each other this way. Men, wash the dishes once in awhile and make the bed. You didn't marry a maid, you married your love. Women, show your man you love him by cooking a good meal for him. Don't let him go to work empty handed. Make him a good lunch (the night before if necessary) and put in a love note with it. Help keep his heart with you this way even when he's away from you at work and when your away from him.
Men, surprise your wife with a love letter on no special day and tell your woman you love her.
Don't take for granted your husband/wife. They may not be here tomorrow if you do. They are more important then the daily newspaper, the TV show, the movie; or anything else. Pay full attention to one another giving weight to each others words.
Oh I could go on and on. I've learned these things the hard way, and am writing you today in hopes that you will learn them just by reading instead of the hard way, hopefully avoiding lots of heart ache and bringing joy and true Wealth and Riches into your life; all of your life.
Blessings to you,